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Such a heartbreaking personal testimony; I was wishing for a happy ending, unfortunately it is the case here which makes me want to leave a comment that will guide you the healing and restoration that you deserve. Any abuse suffered, especially in your childhood years can mark your life forever. Unfortunately, most wounds are inflicted by the people who are the closest to us. The emotional wounds and trauma that you have shared can hurt even more than physical wounds. You didn’t choose the family you were born in to. God establishes our entire life. Today you have to understand that God, in Christ has given you the ability to overcome the difficult moments that you have lived with your father. The word of God teaches that rejection is the source of most wounds inflicted in the heart. Its origin are from (1) lack of love ; ideally, every child would like to have parents who accepts him/her.(2) lack of acceptance; Joseph, one of Jacob’s sons in the Bible was rejected by his own brothers and he suffered more things as a result. But he kept his heart pure because he understood that God had allowed everything that happened in his life in order to take him to a greater blessing. As you have gone through moments of suffering and great pain in your life, my advice for you is to remain faithful to God and forgive your father who have hurt you. In God’s perfect timing, he will bless you, raise you up and He will shame your adversaries. It is obvious that your father was not the best role model in your life but do not let his example affect the image of Christ in your life. God love you so much. He is the father that will never reject you, never abandon you and he will never forget about you! Jesus suffered and was rejected through out His whole life because of His great love for you. My wife was rejected by his dad and played no role in her life. When I met her in 1998, during marriage counseling, my pastor requested i seek the father permission before marriage. Because of that, she reluctantly reached out to him and we got his blessings.Today we are happily married for 25 years with 2 boys to the glory of God. At the time her mother protested, saying the man was never a good role model for her, but I am glad my wife listened and obeyed God to forgive him. Today, he is no longer alive, but my wife is free from that pain. Forgiveness is something that we do for ourself not for the person who have harmed us. I pray that God will heal you and restore you completely in Jesus name.

At least he has a sex life to get bored with. Boredom would be an upgrade over the "I'm too tired" and "I just don't feel like it" that I get all the time.

Keith, you made me tear up at work today. The power and emotion you expressed telling men that a wife like that is not a "gold mine" but a God-given job to help her heal overwhelmed me. Both joy and sadness, to hear the truth expressed so simply and to be reminded of how basely i was treated by my ex husband. Thank you all for all the work you do.

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My family was also involved with Vision Forum and my ex husband was a pastor of a family integrated church. It’s a very dangerous situation for people married to narcissistic and unstable partners and their children. I’m now a single mom with 6 of my 10 children still at home.

No one deconstructs from the grace of God!🤦‍♀️ they are deconstructing from abuse, control and being victimized by other's sin!

I made sure to get and read Rift to get ready for this podcast!

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What a jerk and very creepy thing to say that it’s HIS wedding night right off the bat. That’s where he lost me. All downhill from there. So disillusioned with pastors that call themselves pastors. He’s NOT a true pastor. He just wants laughs and to be popular.

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41:00 Not even “watching a s*x scene,” but “watching a movie that has a s*x scene in it”. … … … So if we made movies that were faithful adaptations of the Bible, Christians couldn’t watch them. Because of the scenes that would be IN them (even if due to our personal preferences or sensitivities we opted out of viewing those scenes). *snickers*

And this is why feminists get so much deserved heat from men and Christians: "'Men are simpletons' is a misogynistic trope." Nevermind the misandry, it's misogynist!!!!!!! I don't need this sort of negativity. I don't need this sort of misandry in my life. You need to talk to an anti-feminist for an hour and NOT call him a misogynist or accuse him of rape apology. Maybe then you'll learn something - like that from puberty onward our sex drives are cyclical and come in waves where the longer it's been since our last orgasm the more easily we become aroused and the more driven we become to look for a partner. I'm all for opposing purity culture because we've got it really wrong in the church and I agree we need to be much more specific and nuanced in how we describe lust, but you lose me when you say such invalidating and misandric things. I'm unsubscribing. I don't need your shaming and verbal cudgels in my spirit. This is why the church opposes woke. Because it's feminism only instead of sex it's race or gender identity or sexual orientation or whatever intersectional category you want to fill in there. The stuff you're saying is hurtful and poisonous.

I don't see how this video is helping P&M but ok, we're online, reaction is fair play and I understand you did reach out. I hear a lot of body language talk - I hear little talking about what P&M actually discuss. And sometimes you pretty much agree with them on the topic. The aim of the analysis is well meant, the delivery feels entitled, and even sprinkled with caveats. And of course we can talk about this only because P&M shared their *emotions* and *experiences* in the first place. Online community is a tricky tech business. Only we can make it more human. Disclosure: I only watched a few P&M videos and I have my reservations too, even with the kiss.

I was a child with Barbies in late 70s to early 80s. I never pretended they were simply Barbie. They all were different characters to me in different stories i came up with. I had only 3 or 4 Kens and had to use them over and over. I never looked at blonde Barbie and wished with my dark hair that i was her. Nor did i worry about her chest and i too had the growing breasts skipper😂

Hi Shelia. This is the first video I've watched. I actually found you on line searching for if your husband is stonewalling and or gaslighting you..from a biblical prospective. Yours was like the BEST article on it..I'm still not finished it. So I went to search you on youtube..I'm trying to search and find; but do you have any podcasts on the subject? As the obvious I guess my husband has been stonewalling me for 30 plus years..and I think lately gaslighting me. We've been married for 32 years, and if I stop being in denial, the majority we've been in conflict and I've cried more tears over these years that I can't even believe I can produce anymore..lol. I have to keep some sense of humor. Again if you have any podcasts on this type of podcasts if you can please point me in the right direction..I'm contemplating at this very moment separting and moving out..but money is really tight at the moment. So if I have to stay for now, I have no idea how to live under the same roof like that. Because he will start being super "normal" being nice, etc. Then I won't go..then it'll be like 6 more days and the cycle will repeat itself. Sorry that this was long and all over the place..I'm just not in a good place at the moment. .thank you for reading, and going to finish your podcast now ..lisa

There is a saying: “power corrupts; absolute power corrupt absolutely.”

Don't think she'd be telling her current blog readers to '...just jump him...' It's a lot more complicated than that isn't it Sheila.

I too was traumatized by a conservative church (Presbyterian Church of America) that oh-so-conveniently forgot Ephesians 5:21 and went right to 5:22, wives submit, and man is the head. To them, this was all about control and authority, and the fact that Christ didn't talk about this didn't matter because, you know, Paul! Anyway, 16-year old me knew this wasn't right. Through God's grace, I found egalitarian sources, and they helped immensely, so it pains me to see women still in spiritual bondage. Recently, a secular video helped me understand more about submission and leadership. It explained how women (in general) receive and support while good men are designed to carry out acts of service to help others, and they gain pleasure from this. So, under the umbrella of equality (mutual submission as commanded in 5:21), wives receive and support while husbands carry out acts of service as Christ cares for the church. There's no hierarchy, no who make decisions, etc. It's just an example of Christ's command to love one another because everything has to go back to Christ's teachings. Husbands and wives are like a salt and pepper shaker set: one is not over the other, each is different and good on their own, but they're best when used together.

I spoke up and he snapped at me. When I confronted him about how hurtful it was, he walked away laughing. Now he's the poor hurt puppy because I filed for divorce. I tried for over a decade to make it work

*shrug* you can still separate and should if unsafe. And obviously there’s are a small percentage of people who are in actually life or death situations and that’s clearly not what this book is addressing. It’s addressing a general population. But divorce is not an option. Get it out of your head. Both husband and wife of you. Then the real marriage begins. You know you both are stuck w no other options but to focus and figure life out. It is good to hear another side to this argument though from you ladies.

I wonder if the husband making the tweet understands that leaving a baby in a dirty diaper for too long can actually hurt the baby's health?? I am glad society as a whole seems to be changing and encouraging men to be more involved as dads. I am also very thankful my husband and I are equal partners and I have faith he will be a good dad when we reach that chapter of our lives, based on how I've seen him with our nephew and friends' kids. Yay for good men!

Myth of the magic penis😂😂😂😂

Paul and Morgan are children. Absolute babies. Them giving marriage advice is like toddlers giving tax advice

Keith, what is the location of righteousness like a rolling river. I love justice making things right.

Justice is the joy set before Him that allows Him to despise the shame and bear the pain.

My wife is never too tired for her job or her phone or anything else. But as soon as I show any interest in sex, she's instantly exhausted and just can't bring herself to even try.

I don’t see anything wrong with the comment “I pray she let go of bitterness “ No matter what has been committed against her, she has to let go of bitterness before she can be restored. This is nothing to do with evangelicals; it is the word of God that says so.

Make him stop! His speech sucks!! Puke

Great interview with Sarah. Also loved the thirst for righteousness vs justice. We can make faith and salvation very personal, whilst missing the call to community justice. This leads to shame and condemnation for an individual seeking an abortion whilst refusing to consider proven evidence of abortion levels falling when clear sex ed inc consent and relationships ; and good access to contraception for all ages. Heck the financial impact in US of continuing a pregnancy, regardless of the 'extra mouth to feed' is just another pressure when dealing with unwanted pregnancy. But the focus is on individual sin, not the systemic issues that create situations where people are desperate. Understanding it as justice (a community level matter) rather than righteousness (which can so easily be made personal and spiritual)

48:40 This explains so much. Evangelicals in the U.S. decry liberation theology as "Marxist" because their Bible translations lend themselves to an individualistic reading, but in Latin America, the heart of Christ for social justice is more easily seen in their translations of Scripture.

Dr. Ramini has some excellent videos on UA-cam about healing from betrayal. The common lack of justice is documented as an impediment to healing and forgiveness. Our churches demand forgiveness without justice. It is a secondary trauma.

This aspect of Christian marriage is not taught in UK, maybe in a couple of cases. It's something sown by American churches and the Muslim religion 🙁

John Piper is out of his tiny mind!!!

Well i started my period at ten and soon was mistaken for 14 and soon after 16. I was proud of my period even though i ended up with endometriosis. But i was constantly shamed for looking older and even called a whore for shorter dreses and gasp! Lipstick😮

What a liberating message Sheila! Thank you for uncovering the truth about this awful book and articulating it so well! I myself was a victim of this book but so glad for people like you who have the discernment and teaching ability to help others get untangled from these beliefs. Also, this is an underrated UA-cam channel! Lets get Sheila to a million subs y'all!!!🎉🎉🎉

A man will come under satanic attack if he does not...??😂😂😂

LMAO THIS TITTLE! You are supposed to masturbate! Thats why the clit is there!

You should live with someone and KNOW them BEFORE getting the government involved in your relationship! ( getting married)

It took this woman 3 years to have an orgasm- i aint listening to anything she says.

I think we need to also critically assess the Calvinist/Reformed theology which John MacArthur has spread. Because it prizes the theology of God's sovereignty so much, many Calvinists believe evil and abuse is God's will for the victims. Calvinists twist the bible and God's design for humanity so much in order to make it make sense with predestination and God's sovereignty. Maybe Bare Marriage doesn't want to get into docrinal disputes, but I think it is critical to expose how harmful the Calvinist view of God is.

Abusers like to isolate. Stay vigilant

Sorry ladies, although I really, really enjoy this channel, you are mistaken on a very important point. From the website Encyclopedia Britannica " Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony refused to endorse the amendment and thereby cede suffrage to African American men before women, resorting to racist claims that those who are “educated”-essentially meaning white women-deserve enfranchisement first." Elizabeth Cady Stanton broke up a decades long friendship with Frederick Douglass over this point and I believe never spoke to him again. Also, if you look further into the suffrage movement, major feminists like Victoria Woodhull (who ran for president by the way in 1872) were arguing for entire reconfigurations of the family, including free love and communal parenting with a great lessening of the authority of the bio-parents. You make so many great points; I am sure that you would want to be accurate on these points as well.

Women with the spirit of Jezebel take issue with God's design for marriage ... tisk tisk !!